Displacement

I'd tried to write a bit a while back about Separation Anxiety in relationships and it's still something I think about off and on. More than anything this is just notes for myself. I see it in people who still function with this 'unit' mentality, they may have gotten to the point where their okay sharing their SO with another sexually, but they didn't realize they'd also have to deal with their security blanket being out of arms reach at various times. And that creates a level of anxiety, a feeling of loss. And, in a way they are loosing something. But, maybe, we should never have built our security in another person, maybe we should have built it in ourselves.

My safe place was no longer available. Someone had my security blanket. I’d built my emotional “home” in our relationship, so when he went away, I’d feel temporarily… homeless.

- Demotion & Displacement: 2 More Things Jealousy Can Mean, PolyLand