Saying No Reveals People’s True Natures

The reason I don’t regret setting boundaries? It’s because it is NO and not YES that reveals people’s true natures.

Truly kind and caring people can deal with a reasonable no. Sure, they might be disappointed. But they understand the need for you to protect and take care of yourself, even if it isn’t always convenient for them.

But selfish people? They lose their shit when they’re told no. This could be lashing out with attacks on your character. Or a guilt trip. Or any other number of ways.
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But the thing is? People tend to look alike so long as you are saying yes to everything they want from you.

When we tell people no is when we really get to know them.

-- Getting to “No” You: Setting Boundaries Reveals People’s True Natures, PolyLand