On boundaries

"Once I started thinking about boundaries as the ways I choose to respond when things out of my control are causing me discomfort or harm, my life has gotten a lot easier."

Learning to Set Empowered Boundaries by Annie Frazier Halladay

Over all a really good read about being focused on yourself in your boundary setting. Something I've tried to talk a lot about and make the distinction of in discussions, but never quite seemed to get across. So many people default to seeing boundaries as a means to illicit a response from others, and they neglect to see or are unwilling to back up their boundaries with their own actions. Great examples of ways to do that in this article.